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Judge Saboteur
The King of All Saboteurs!

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​​Underlying Strengths​

  • Discernment and Responsibility: The Judge can help identify potential flaws or areas for improvement, prompting a person to take responsibility for their actions and decisions.

  • Focus on Improvement: When managed well, the Judge's critical analysis can motivate individuals to work towards self-improvement and higher standards.

  • Reality Check: Points out potential downsides or risks associated with certain behaviors or choices. 

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

When overused or abused, Judge Saboteur manifests in: 

  • Excessive Self-Criticism: Constant negative self-talk and dwelling on past mistakes - leading to lowered self-esteem. 

  • Perfectionism: An unhealthy obsession with achieving flawlessness - causing stress and anxiety (self and others). 

  • Negative Focus: Obsessively focusing on what is wrong with oneself or others, neglecting positive aspects. 

 

Thoughts

  • What is wrong with me? 

  • What is wrong with you? 

  • What is wrong with my circumstance or this outcome?

 

Justification Lies

  • Without me pushing you, you will get lazy and complacent. 

  • Without me punishing you for mistakes, you will not learn from them and repeat them. 

  • Without me scaring you about bad future outcomes, you will not work hard to prevent them. 

  • Without me judging others, you will lose your objectivity and not protect your self-interest. 

  • Without me making your feel bad about the bad outcome, you won’t do anything to change it.

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Avoider Saboteur

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Generally Positive Attitude and fairly non-judgmental of others

  • Seeks peace and harmony

    • Both internal with self, and external with others

  • Creative problem solver in some situations – to avoid conflict

  • Easygoing, even-keeled temperament.

  • Flexible and adaptable.

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Avoids conflict and says yes to things one wouldn’t want. 

  • Downplays importance of real problems and tries to deflect others. 

  • Has difficulty saying no. 

  • Resists others through passive-aggressive means rather than directly resulting in superficial relationships. 

  • Loses self in comforting routines and habits. Procrastinates on unpleasant tasks.

  • Lags in accountability

  • Self-sabotages

 

Thoughts

  • This is just too unpleasant. Maybe if I let it go it will take care of itself. 

  • If I deal with this now, I will hurt her feeling. I’d rather not. 

  • If I get into conflict with others, I might lose my connection with them. 

  • I have found balance. I don’t want to mess with it. 

  • I’d rather give someone else their way than create a scene.

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Controller Saboteur

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Confident, action-oriented, decisive, willful, persistent

  • High energy and internal motivation

  • Strong leadership qualities 

  • Challenge self and others – thrive on tackling challenges – not easily discouraged

  • Able to do the right thing, even if unpopular 

  • Sees possibilities and activates self and others toward outcomes

  • Readily take initiative and can be very effective in driving projects forward

  • Direct, clear, and straightforward communicators

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Connect with others through competition, challenge, physicality, or conflict rather than softer emotions.

  • Willful, confrontational talker.

  • Push people beyond comfort zone.

  • Stimulated by and connects through conflict.

  • Surprised that others get hurt.

  • Intimidate others.

  • In-your-face communication interpreted by others as anger or criticism.

  • Can easily become over controlling and overbearing 

  • Dismissive of others’ opinions if do not align 

 

Thoughts

  • You are either in control or out of control.

  • If I work hard enough I can and should control the situation so it goes my way.

  • Others want and need me to take control.

  • You are doing them a favor.

  • No one tells me what to do.

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Hyper-Achiever

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Curious, loves to learn.

  • Thrives on personal growth.

  • Driven, pragmatic, adaptable, goal-oriented, and self-directed.

  • Capable of growing self and others to achieve full potential.

  • When inner-directed, can be great in inspiring self and others towards meaningful growth and achievement.

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Competitive, image and status conscious.

  • Good at covering up insecurities and showing positive image.

  • Adapt personality to fit what would be most impressive to the other. Goal oriented and workaholic streak.

  • More into perfecting public image than introspection.

  • Can be self-promoting.

  • Can keep people at safe distance.​

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Thoughts

  • I must be best at what I do.

  • If I can’t be outstanding, I won’t bother.

  • Must be efficient and effective.

  • Emotions get in the way of performance.

  • Focus on thinking and action.

  • I can be anything I want to be.

  • You are worthy as long as you are successful and others think well of you.

  • What I have achieved is not enough = I am not enough.  

  • Don’t linger on current success – rather on what’s next to be achieved? 

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Hyper-Rational

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Capable of deep insight and understanding through objective analysis

  • Can be very observant and perceptive

  • Power of great mental concentration 

  • Drive towards great expertise in area of knowledge

  • Can be great explorer and inventor

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Intense and active mind, sometimes coming across as intellectually arrogant or secretive.

  • Private and don’t let many people into deeper feelings.

  • Mostly show feelings through passion in ideas.

  • Prefer to just watch the craziness around and analyze from a distance.

  • Can lose track of time due to intense concentration.

  • High penchant for skepticism and debate.​

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Thoughts

  • The rational mind is where it is at.

  • Feelings are distracting and irrelevant.

  • Many people are so irrational and sloppy in their thinking.

  • The needs and emotions of others distract me from my projects.

  • I need to shut out intrusions.

  • What I value most is knowledge, understanding, and insight.

  • Self-worth is attached to mastering knowledge and competence.

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Hyper-Vigilant

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Vigilant. Prepared for any possible danger.

  • Sensitive and aware of true risks and dangers to self, others, and institutions.

  • Guardians of families, communities, and institutions.

  • Loyal, reliable, dependable, and hardworking.

  • Capable of perseverance and consistent work towards objectives.

  • Capable of instituting and preserving systems and structures to impose order and stability.

  • Strategic thinkers

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Intense and active mind, sometimes coming across as intellectually arrogant or secretive.

  • Private and don’t let many people into deeper feelings.

  • Mostly show feelings through passion in ideas.

  • Prefer to just watch the craziness around and analyze from a distance.

  • Can lose track of time due to intense concentration.

  • High penchant for skepticism and debate.​

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Thoughts

  • The rational mind is where it is at.

  • Feelings are distracting and irrelevant.

  • Many people are so irrational and sloppy in their thinking.

  • The needs and emotions of others distract me from my projects.

  • I need to shut out intrusions.

  • What I value most is knowledge, understanding, and insight.

  • Self-worth is attached to mastering knowledge and competence.

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Pleaser

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Empath and caring.

  • Loving and giving.

  • Tuned into others’ feelings and needs.

  • Emotionally self-aware.

  • Potential for high emotional intelligence.

  • Desire to serve.

  • Loyal – committed to well-being and happiness of others.

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Has a strong need to be liked by people and attempts to earn it by helping, pleasing, rescuing, or flattering them.

  • Needs frequent reassurance from others about their acceptance and affection. 

  • Can’t express own needs openly and directly. Does so indirectly by having people feel obligated to reciprocate care.

  • Can come across as “needy.”

  • Can be too forceful and intrusive in trying to help others.​​

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Thoughts

  • To be a good person I should put the needs of others ahead of my own.

  • It bothers me when people don’t notice or care about what I have done for them.

  • They can be selfish and ungrateful.

  • I give away too much and don’t think of myself enough.

  • I can make anyone like me.

  • If I don’t rescue people, who will?

  • Love and acceptance are conditional on how much I give of myself to others

  • I need to get more than.

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Restless

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Underlying Strengths​

  • High energy, and vitality, open, curious, spontaneous.

  • Contagious enthusiasm and appreciation of life.

  • Capable of great productivity and creativity.

  • Energizing and engaging others in co-creation.

  • Capable of great breadth of activity and pursuits

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Easily distracted and can get too scattered.

  • Stays busy, juggling many different tasks and plans.

  • Seeks excitement and variety not comfort or safety.

  • Bounces (escapes) from unpleasant feelings very quickly.

  • Seeks constant new stimulation.

  • Worries about missing out on other more worthwhile experiences.
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Thoughts

  • This isn’t fulfilling.

  • This next thing has got to be more exciting.

  • These negative feelings suck.

  • I must shift my attention to something exciting.

  • Why can’t anyone keep up with me?

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Stickler

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Underlying Strengths​

  • High ideals and standards. Principled.

  • Able to bring organization and order into ambiguity and chaos.

  • Capable of leading self and others to live and work based on clear guiding principles--to be a “good” person, and do the “right” thing.

  • Self-disciplined: Direct and discerning. Seeing and communicating things as they are.​

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • Punctual, methodical, perfectionist.

  • Can be irritable, tense, opinionated, sarcastic.

  • Highly critical of self and others.

  • Strong need for self-control and self-restraint.

  • Works overtime to make up for others’ sloppiness and laziness.

  • Is highly sensitive to criticism.
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Thoughts

  • Right is right and wrong is wrong.

  • I know the right way.

  • If you can’t do it perfectly, don’t do it at all.

  • Others too often have lax standards.

  • I need to be more organized and methodical than others so things get done.

  • I hate mistakes.

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Victim

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Underlying Strengths​

  • Sensitive: Feel own emotions deeply and clearly, including “difficult” emotions. 

  • Introspective: Capable of deep and courageous introspection and self-discovery. 

  • Authentic: Often expresses raw, honest emotions, which can inspire trust and openness in others.

  • Individualistic: Appreciates the uniqueness of self and others.

  • Perceptive of nuanced inner workings of the mind and capable of using that to connect, teach, inspire, or heal.

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Characteristics When in Sabotuer Mode

  • If criticized or misunderstood, tend to withdraw, pout, and sulk.

  • Fairly dramatic and temperamental.

  • When things get tough, want to crumble and give up.

  • Repressed rage results in depression, apathy, and constant fatigue.

  • Unconsciously attached to having difficulties.

  • Get attention by having emotional problems, or being temperamental and sullen.
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Thoughts

  • No one understands me.

  • Poor me.

  • Terrible things always happen to me.

  • I might be uniquely disadvantaged or flawed.

  • I am what I feel.

  • I wish someone would rescue me from this dreary mess.

  • Maybe this way I get some of the love and attention that I deserve.

  • Sadness is a noble and sophisticated thing that shows exceptional depth, insight, and sensitivity.

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